One Size Does Not Fit All!
Having tools is great, especially when you’re trying to survive through a moment. My approach assumes that you have the tools to manage during difficult times and focuses on gaining a deeper understanding of what inside of you is calling for attention. For example, if you feel anxious, you may be missing a need for safety, creativity, clarity, etc… Learning to identify what you are needing in this situation will give you a tailored tool to lower the anxiety. So if you are needing creativity, maybe you might prefer to play the piano, paint, dance, or write instead of walking, meditating or journaling.
It's ok not to know...
Jokes are often made about therapists asking clients “how does that make you feel?” Sometimes we just don’t know, but other times we tend to say “I don’t know” to avoid something (feelings, thoughts, conversations etc…). Even though “I don’t know” is an appropriate response at times, and completely acceptable; unlike other therapists, most of the time I will encourage you to guess because guessing will give us some direction. By guessing, we have a starting point, and we can evaluate and see which direction we should go.
Lets Figure it out Together
As therapists, we are not here to tell you what to do. In fact, most therapists will teach you tools, but they will not make suggestions for changes they may think you should make. Given that I receive 1% of the story (or experience) being discussed, I will not tell you what to do either. I will, however, come up with possible ideas for things you can try to help you get started with coming up with your own ideas. It is ultimately up to you to decide what is best for you, but sometimes we just get stuck and need someone to help start us off.
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